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Michael Jackson and Me

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The glove. The dancing. The videos. The Paul McCartney duets that — I’ll say it here — resurrected Macca’s career and made him relevant as Wings was grounded for good. Michael Jackson had trademarks, and despite his personal flaws, he had style and an open mind to collaborate with artists so different from himself. His forward thinking earned him the massive crossover success he reaped.

The best music-biz reminiscence I’ve heard is how tastemaking national album-rock stations, when “Beat It” and its Eddie Van Halen guitar solo came out, slipped the record into their rotations amid the Zeppelin hits and “Dance the Night Away” and Steppenwolf and whatever…without naming the artist. After a week or so, they copped to playing Michael Jackson. Eddie was hot, Jacko was hot, they couldn’t not play it. It’s like next year, Shaq and LeBron will be on the same team — even if you hate basketball or think Shaq’s too old to win the big one, how can you not watch?

Michael Jackson was so good, whatever he touched turned to gold in the 1980s. He was generous about it, too, he spread himself around. Even his brother Jermaine — not always on the best of terms with his younger sib — got a big career boost when Michael sang on his minor hit “Tell Me I’m Not Dreaming (Too Good to be True).”

His 1970s vocal performances were sublime. “I’ll Be There.” “ABC.” “I Want You Back.” Pillars of the soul canon. All-time great tracks, crackling with energy and talent. Lightning on vinyl.

Yet I find it hard to listen to Michael Jackson. Even before he allegedly drove over the cliff with Demerol (according to published media reports) this week, the magic from listening to classics like “I’ll Be There” had left the building, for me. It was hard to marvel anymore. In its place, sadness. Sadness for the mess Jacko made of himself, his life, and the kids who hung out with him.

To be fair, all of my idols have pretty much fallen, one by one. For instance, Ben Folds. I loved him. Perhaps no other musician since Michael Jackson and Thriller made me burn so white-hot with fan love: “Brick” was beautiful and powerful, showing us the pain of what he felt was a missed opportunity. He took us into his living room with “The Luckiest” and “Gracie,” beautiful twin songs about his kids. He backed that up with stories told onstage, selling to us what looked like genuine love for them.

I bought the whole package, from Ben Folds Five to the solo records. Then what did he do? Went and spread fecal material all over the whole thing by dumping the fam for his yoga instructor. He could have stopped there, but no: He told his own vitriolic side of the story in song on his next record.

My stomach has little tolerance for Ben Folds anymore. As a musician, he’s great. As a person, he’s a whiny twerp who flunked Dad-hood. Forget “Brick.” Forget “Gracie.” Shoulda kept it wrapped, bro. Shoulda thought of that before you decided your “thing” would be personal, introspective songs. If you’d taken the Deep Purple route or had created a lyrical mythology like Zeppelin or whomever, I’d probably still be cool with you. That, or you shoulda manned up like the rest of us when the home situation at times became less fun than you’d planned it to be. You, the senator seeing his Argentinian mistress, Jacko, you’re all in the same boat. Hard to take what you say seriously anymore.

People — musicians and not — are allowed to have personal crises. Happens all the time. Just don’t try and sell them to us. Or worse yet, make hypocritical songs like “Man In The Mirror,” whose beautiful message is just turned into so much melted plastic after reading court documents from the 2005 “The People of the State of California v. Michael Joseph Jackson” case.

Anyone who comes after me with “he was acquitted, you can’t count that, ” I will say that, as a former cops-and-courts reporter for a daily newspaper, the court system doesn’t go after someone of Jackson’s status without some sort of valid case. Prosecutors have budgets to meet, and the lame ones get voted off the island for poor performance. That’s how it works, despite what conspiracy theorists and prime-time courtroom TV dramas would have you believe. Sure, the state might go into a case thinking that it will win — and subsequently lose. Happens every day. That being said, there was some serious smoke surrounding that Neverland fire — just not enough to convict.

There are thousands of shades of gray between “totally innocent” and “led away to jail in cuffs to serve hard time.” But as music fans, the cool thing is, we get to judge for ourselves. Our “punishment” is personal boycotts of further investment in an artist’s works. We don’t have to listen to them. And when it comes to Michael Jackson, I don’t, much. I did put “ABC” and “I Want You Back” on my kids’ iPods — it beats the crap out of a lot of kid-centric music out there.

YouTube, thankfully, doesn’t require payment to play. So here, let’s revisit the back catalog, once again. I’ll leave you with “Man in the Mirror.” If Michael Jackson had listened to his own advice in the lyrics, posting this video would seem an uplifting tribute. Instead, it was the gateway to Neverland hijinks that some of us — rightfully — can never forgive. It’s not a beautiful song anymore, like it was 20 years ago when it came out. Watch it. Do you feel good vibes, or more like you’ve been rickrolled? Comment away.

  • http://elibolin.net ShalimarBojangles

    I'm no Ben Folds apologist (I found his most recent record pretty mediocre save 2 or 3 songs), and certainly the fact that he's on his *fourth* marriage seems to prove that he's responsible for the lion's share of his relationship failures, but there's a couple things that are incorrect above, at least according to this post from Ben, which was intended to clear up misinformation about his most recent split:

    http://www.benfolds.org/forum/59450

  • http://elibolin.net ShalimarBojangles

    Also, “The Luckiest” was about his (third) wife. “Still Fighting It” is the song for his son, Louis.

  • http://www.popdose.com DwDunphy

    Taking away the details of his divorces, Folds' music still has become this joyless stream of rants against the female half of the species. Yes, the Five albums had some of that too, but there was always balance. Now that balance is ridiculously weighted and thrown off. Set aside the glowing tributes to his former wife in his liner notes – heck, how much does Billy Joel want to never sing songs from his Christie phase? – if you just listen to Silverman and Normal for what they are, they're both a stone cold drag.

    Now, how that ties into MJ is just that it does get very hard to reconcile the art with the artist when we go down the scandal trail. I suspect things will get uglier very soon now that he's gone and anyone & everyone who ever had dealings with him race to their ghostwriter.

  • mojo

    I'm not doubting you, thanks for the clarification.

    I've gotten many great pieces of info from the Folds-o-sphere, and I was by no stretch of the imagination the most diehard fan!

    I swear, however, that he said “The Luckiest” was about Louis in one of his shows I saw, while he was introducing “Gracie.” Is this possible? Or is my memory totally lying to me?

    Can you point me to a link where he sorts this out?

    Thank you

  • ozarkmatt

    Well, I don't think I have knowingly heard a “Ben Folds” song in my life, so who is right or wrong there is above my pay grade.

    However, one detail you should switch. “You, the senator seeing his Argentinian mistress,…”

    Actually, Sanford is a Governor. Not really that big of a deal, but the devil is always in the details.

  • side3

    “Say Say Say” may have been the last gasp of Macca's #1 singles career, but I hardly think Michael Jackson revived his career. The album before the MJ duet's was the great “Tug of War”…which I believe was a #1 album. If anything, the album with the MJ duets , “Pipes of Peace” was a low point…and Macca wouldn't really make another great album until “Flowers in the Dirt” in 1989.

    Just my opinion of course….

  • mojo

    Ah yes. Governors, Republican or Democrat, can go have “foreign affairs.” It just the senators who are not. My mistake. All is forgiven. Run him in 2012 SANFORD FOR PRESIDENT

  • ozarkmatt

    Ah yes, as far as I know, ever since Carter admitted “lust in his heart,” it's been OK for governors to step out. It's just a governor heading out of the country for an affair is so unique to me. You can probably tell by my screen name what state I live in, so I'm used to a governor just getting down in his office.

    Plus it increases the quantity by cutting down on the travel time.

  • mojo

    apologies for that. Yes I shoulda googled before posting on this day when bloggers are moving fast, but OTOH it doesn't invalidate my argument.

  • Miss Daisy

    Thank you for putting into words what i've been feeling since his death was announced. I just haven't even slightly felt good about him or his work for years. Some of this hysteria/fan stuff is making me queasy. Recently i thought about Beat It, and went to iTunes and got it (i regret having not held on to my 80s 12″ remix that featured more Eddie on it than the single. really really excellent stuff)… and i breezed through the MJ collection to see if there was anything else I needed. I picked Wanna be starting something. and that was it. TWO songs. i really can't bear to listen to anything else of his.

  • mojo

    Circling back, never mind, you are correct. My memory, on occasion, deceives me. Mea culpa.

  • mojo

    Circling back, never mind, you are correct. My memory, on occasion, deceives me. Mea culpa.

  • mojo

    Circling back, never mind, you are correct. My memory, on occasion, deceives me. Mea culpa.