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The Getting-to-Know-You Megamix

Dw. Dunphy August 22, 2010 7

Love stinks. Trying to get to love stinks more.

Here’s the deal: there’s a woman I’ve been interested in. I only cross her path every other weekend, but she’s always been sweet and kind when I’ve had time to talk to her. Briefly, really briefly. Did I mention she’s gorgeous? Yeah, she’s gorgeous, but here’s the kicker. She doesn’t seem to know that, and if she does, she doesn’t act like it, which makes her gorgeouser. (Oh, cut me some slack, will ya?)

Anyway, I’ve been mulling over in my head how I’m to try to get to know her. I’d like to impress her, of course, but I also don’t want to come off as creepy and kill off whatever minuscule opportunity I might have. Being a music nerd, I thought, “Go with your strength and make her a mix CD. You can try to find out about her by offering a little about yourself.” So I made the mix CD… that I will never give her.

Putting aside the rose-tinted romantic flush and just staring at the situation pragmatically, nothing is quite as off-putting as someone just immediately offering up gifts. In this situation, homemade gifts are even worse because you’ve really put your heart and some thought into it. The premise that I’ve been thinking about her then sounds less like good-natured pining and more like obsessing. Not a promising opening serve.

Also, mixtapes are something you give once you actually kind of know a person. You’re aiming at targets they’ve disclosed, you know their likes and dislikes and you’re trying to create a mix within those boundaries. This whole thing of a getting-to-know-you item is like jumping from no dates to sixth date status. How rude.

So I decided to put it out to you, good Popdose readership. That was a lot of work to simply ditch and start from zero, and the mix has a lot of great pop tracks, although perhaps my fatalism shines through once too often in the choices. Either way, I’ve completely disavowed the project and it’s well intentioned, if awkward, basis for existing. Maybe she’ll throw me a sign next time I see her. Maybe not. I certainly doubt she reads our site…

Right?

The contents of this megamix are: The Ravines – Dark Clouds / Sugarbomb – What A Drag / The Format – Oceans / Jellyfish – I Wanna Stay Home / Beagle – Well, It’s Only Pain / Squeeze – It’s Over / Edin-Adahl – Falling / Spoon – Everything Hits At Once / The 77′s – Film At 11 / Jon Brion – Meaningless / The New Pornographers – Go Places / Paul Steel – Cry Away

The Getting-to-Know-You Megamix download

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Dw. Dunphy is a writer, artist, musician, bon vivant, n'er do well, but neither a president nor client of the Hair Club for Men. He resides in New Jersey with his decades-old neuroses and debt.You can follow him at Facebook, Twitter, or hit him up on Google+. Or just hit him. Really hard. With bats. Until he asks for you to stop, but don't stop. If you stop, an angel doesn't get its wings.

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  • EightE1

    Gimme her email, and I’ll send her the link, Dunphy. Yeah, I’d do that for you, man. Anyway, getting the link from a total stranger has to be at least equally as creepy as getting it from someone you see every two weeks, and this way, you’re not involved. Fuhgeddaboutit.

  • http://www.bullz-eye.com Anonymous

    I love every song I know on this mix, but I’d never put songs with titles like “It’s Over” and “Meaningless” on the first mix tape I made for a girl I liked. Just sayin’.

  • http://www.popdose.com DwDunphy

    Dude, I always knew you had my back. Why? Cause you can’t say “no”, that’s why.

  • http://www.popdose.com DwDunphy

    I’m 90% confident she knows nothing of The New Pornographers either, rendering inclusion of any of their songs extremely awkward. “Hey, I think you’re pretty cool. How about them new pornographers?”

  • Anonymous

    Good mix, but, as you say in the article, making a mixtape before you know the person is ultra-creepy.

  • Rebecca

    While I don’t think giving a mixtape is all that creepy (it really depends on how much you talk to this girl—if it’s just a simple “Hi”, then yeah, creepy. If you have cute, upbeat conversations, then…I don’t think its that bad.

    But I have to echo the comment about “It’s Over.” It’s a great song, but the title is kind of a downer, and that line about “there’s no attraction there” is…just no. Not the kind of message you want to send. I’d suggest “Daphne” but that might be crossing into total stalker territory.

  • Garylucy

    Great mix! But I agree you need to have at least one date before you lay any discs on anybody. Ask her out!! I promise she’ll be flattered, and even if she says no, it won’t ruin the bi-weekly friendliness you have now. Then you’ll know! Everyone’s got their fingers crossed for you, go get ‘em Tiger! xx, G
    PS
    Not familiar with “It’s Over”–but “meaningless” is the PERFECT stealth early-romance mix tape song. Title implies “hey, it’s no big deal,” but then when you hear it, you realize it’s DEEP. Also, I wish the New Porno’s had decided to call themselves ANYTHING else in the world.
    PPS
    Keep the date short n sweet. Dinner &/or movie=WAY too much. Coffee is kind of cliche but always works. There’s a billion frozen yogurt shops where I live all of a sudden–maybe that?